Domestic Violence
What is domestic violence?
Domestic violence is a term used to describe violence and abuse by family
members or intimate partners such as a spouse, former spouse, boyfriend
or girlfriend, ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, or date. Other terms used
for domestic violence include the following:
- intimate partner abuse
- family violence
- child abuse
- battering
- courtship violence
- marital rape
- date rape
- stalking
Domestic violence can take many forms, but involves using intimidation and
threats or violent behaviors to gain power and control over another person.
Usually, the abusive person is a male, and women are often the victims;
however, domestic violence occurs against males. Child abuse, elder abuse,
and sibling abuse are also considered domestic violence.
Facts about domestic violence:
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) lists the following
facts about domestic violence and women:
- Approximately 1.5 million women are raped and/or physically abused
by an intimate partner annually.
- Approximately 25 percent of women responded in the National Violence
Against Women Survey that they had been raped and/or physically assulted
by a current or former spouse, cohabitating partner, or date at some
time in their life.
- Almost 40 percent of women who are victims of violence report being
injured.
- Increased frequency of violence toward a spouse is associated with
increased risk of the violent spouse also being abusive to the child.
- There is a strong association between stalking and other forms of
violence: 81 percent of women who were stalked by a current or former
husband or partner were also physically assaulted by that partner, and
31 percent were also sexually assaulted.
- Psychological consequences for victims of intimate partner violence
can include depression, suicidal thoughts and attempts, lowered self-esteem,
alcohol and other drug abuse, and post-traumatic stress disorder.
What are the different forms of domestic violence?
According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, abuse often
begins with verbal behaviors such as name-calling, threats, and hitting
or throwing objects. It can become worse, including pushing, slapping, and
holding against the victim's will. Further battering may include punching,
hitting, and kicking and may escalate to life-threatening behaviors such
as choking, breaking of bones, or use of weapons.
The following are forms of domestic violence and battering:
- physical - battering or hitting causing physical injury that
may include bruising, broken bones, internal bleeding, and death. Often
the abuse begins with minor contact and escalates over time into more
violent actions.
- sexual - often accompanies or follows physical battering, and
results in rape or other forced sexual activity.
- psychological or emotional- an abuser often mentally or emotionally
abuses with words, threats, harassment, extreme possessiveness, forced
isolation, and destruction of belongings. Isolation often occurs when
the abuser tries to control a victim's time, activities, and contact
with others. Abusers may accomplish this through interfering with supportive
relationships, creating barriers to normal activities, such as taking
away the car keys or locking the victim in the home, and lying or distorting
what is real to gain psychological control.
- stalking - repeated harassing or threatening behavior; often
leads to physical or sexual abuse.
- economic - when the abuser controls access to the all of the
victim's resources, such as time, transportation, food, clothing, shelter,
insurance, and money. For example, he may interfere with her ability
to become self-sufficient, and insist that he control all of the finances.
When the victim leaves the violent relationship, the perpetrator may
use economics as a way to maintain control or force her to return.
How to get help:
First, you must recognize that battering or abuse is occurring. Because
verbal and emotional abuse often precede physical violence, you should be
aware of warning signs that include extreme jealousy, possessiveness, a
bad temper, unpredictability, cruelty to animals, and verbal abusiveness.
Contact your local battered women's shelter or the National Domestic
Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD). They
can provide you with helpful information and advice.
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence urges women in abusive
relationships to create a safety plan. The following plan may help you
in difficult situations:
- Find a safe place to go in your home if an argument begins. Avoid
rooms without an exit and rooms with potential dangers such as a kitchen.
- Know who to contact in a crisis and establish a code word or sign
among trusted family or friends to let them know you need help.
- Memorize all important phone numbers.
- Always keep money and change with you.
- Keep important papers and documents in a place you can easily access
if necessary, including: social security cards, birth certificates,
marriage license, checkbook, charge cards, bank statements, health insurance
cards, and any records of past abuse including photographs and police
reports.
Remember that help is available and that you have the right to live without
fear and violence. Without help, abuse will continue and place you at risk
for serious harm.
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